Anything that you resent and strongly react to in another is also in you. You cannot judge or shame another without it being a reflection of your relationship with yourself. I am right and you are wrong is deeply embedded in our lives and world and is the basis for all confrontations between nations, races, religions, families and individuals. Both sides have their own story and perspective, what is true for them. Both are shut down (blind spot) to seeing another perspective as true. Both see themselves as victims and the other as bad since they have dehumanized the other as the other, even being able to justify killing them. We become entrapped in an insane cycle of judging, shaming, blaming, action and reaction. So what is the cause seeing the effect of this insanity? It is the ego being in complete control through our emotions and thoughts. Once we become fully conscious of this process, we can begin to make other choices from our hearts not from our minds housing our egos.